January 29th, 2008

can’t I have my cake AND eat it too?

The age old desire. the need for everything…..my cake, and eating it, and rolling in it, and possibly having sex in it, on it, around it or near it. Speaking of cake, I had the most amazing Chocolate Lava cake from my favorite wine bar (right down the street from my casa), and boy was it good. So good in fact, that I wish I could throw it up and eat it all over again. But that would mean I am bulimic and that’s just not my thing.
But back to my mission…
Sitting at dinner last night with an old friend, Jack Careawhack, I realized just how much I love SD. I love the air, the attitude, the people, my place, the ocean, the feeling, I love everything about it down here. LA eats me alive. Am I really going to move back? I feel like I have to! But is it just a feeling? I have been known to be very impulsive. Yes, incredibly impulsive, so much so that it actually drives the people that know me best absolutely nuts. But they deal with it in the same way I do. Brush it off. Nod nod nod. Yes, pf, whatever you want. you will change your mind again in 20 minutes, but for the next 20 minutes, yes, that sounds like a great idea! Should I stay or should i go?
Should I keep the place in SD as my retreat? for when I feel like waving my white flag and running for the waves? Should I be realistic and just live in one place? I went nuts when I lived in LA. Absolutely freaking nuts. A large problem when I lived in lala, was that I lived with Tye n9ne, and that kid is just an animal. Drinker. party machine. good most nights, but it killed me always having people over up in the casa, I felt a little crowded, even though I had the dopest house and the perfect back yard, and well, everything. Especially the art set-up. fucking perfect. here? No set up. I can’t throw paint around because I have nice wonderful wood floors (as opposed to my cement floor garage). I need to think. Think flame think. you need to really think this one out, no action yet. just let the thoughts and possibilities run over you, and then….when the time comes, decide. Decide right. Decide what will be best for you.
The problem is, my lease here is up in March. End of March I have to decide whether I will split my life, as it is now, or if I will move it all back up there. Well, not me doing the moving, I’m hiring peoples, fuck all that moving shit around. I’m over that.
I will give it till March before I commit to a decision. Maybe I should sign another 6 month lease to keep me in here through summer, and then at the end of summer, I can decide for goods. Then in the meantime I can get a nice little furnished studio up in the la, and that will be my haven. Is it too greedy for me to want both? Is it too greedy of me to take both? am I already far beyond being able to ask that question with my stupid Mercedes and phat house?
Any advice folks?

19 Responses to “can’t I have my cake AND eat it too?”

  1. XaTooK says:

    Hi Penny,
    you reply yourself at your question, it’s just a question of money, maybe your salary permit to get both but have you enough wisdom for don’t waste too money.
    If you really LOVE SD I think you will keep a your house and get a little studio in LA.
    If you really dislike LA and you don’t keep SD house , one day you will sad don’t live your day off and happy moment in SD.
    VoilĂ  mon oppinion.
    Kiss…

  2. b says:

    Keep the house in SD. Get a little studio in LA when you feel the time is write. If you find that you’re getting away to SD almost as often as you were driving back and forth, it’s no big deal to drop the studio. If it prevents you from saving as much $’s, then… well.. I don’t know your $ situation, but if I were you, I’d be saving up as much as I could save. As soon as I have enough, I’m done workin’.

  3. brian says:

    Hey Penny …

    I’ve got my own cake + eat it too struggle … I’d love to hear your opinion …

    I’ve been with girls who are absolute sexual demons … who always seem to turn out to be nuts … (junkies + alchoholics … or on “medicine” for whatever set of letters someone put on them)

    and

    I’ve been with girls who are sweet and kind and easy to get along with and BORING …

    So are there girls who are hot and sane … or does a man have to pick, in your opinion ?

    Oh ya to answer your question … you already know what you are going to do … you just don’t want to decide …

  4. Penny says:

    I think that a man doesn’t have to decide right then. The right one will be a little bit of everything.

    I hope….because that is what I tell myself

  5. Penny says:

    oh, and you are right. Fuck it. Back to LA

  6. J says:

    I was in SD a couple weekends ago and I thought of you. Have you thought about living somewhere like Carpinteria or Santa Barbara? You could get to porno valley a lot faster from there than from SD, since you wouldn’t have to fight through all the 5 or 405 traffic. AND, you could have the waves. Sure those towns aren’t as um… “cosmopolitan” as downtown SD, but they still have that low-key, clean-air, beachy kinda vibe that SD has, and they are real close to L.A. — Just another idea. So put that in yr pipe and smoke it. (p.s. will you PLEASE post a video of your joint rollin’ technique??! We can find you naked just about anywhere, but I’d say you could probably make the best joint-rolling video of all time.)

  7. ALEXTRUEGENT says:

    Maybe you could try and stay with some friends. Maybe see if Mo or someone you trust is looking for a roomie or something in the LA area. Who knows, you just might luck out and catch a good deal somewhere.

    I think that getting a studio in LA and keeping your current place until you figure out exactly where you want to stay is a good idea. Having two places at once isn’t bad at all. Thats my situation at the moment.

  8. Rem Koolhaas says:

    Come to LA Miss Flame.

  9. pete says:

    hey i really like your blog. and we have the same birthday. you, me, and george washington. thanks for writing : )

  10. Daredevil says:

    Hey Penny me and the boys & gals over at Adult DVD Talk’s forum were wondering where you’ve been (especialy Ultrasiet 2, and Matchmaker), so I thought I’d drop a line & invite you back. Your Penny Flame thread has been growing daily thanks to Ultra & Matchmaker, having a running conversation, which is pretty comical, but it would be even better with the Flaming Flame sharing her thoughts too.
    As Far as your living arrangements, I think if you can afford it, you should have a place in LA, and up north too. I know if I could afford another home in the south I’d do it. It’s 9 degrees here in Michigan, and cold as a witch’s tit.
    Peace, Daredevil

  11. DH says:

    I am in a similar boat. Been living in SD and now have to probably go back to LA. I’m writing a blog about starting a medical marijuana biz, and SD County is not the place to do it. Too bad. My advice is twofold: Close your eyes and ask yourself what makes you happy. Whatever pops into your head first is what’s most important. Follow that wherever it leads you. Second, comment on my blog once damnit! Where’s the love? You can find mine at walkaboutjones.com

    DH

  12. AJ says:

    Happy Birthday, Penny!

    Of all days, today you should indeed eat that fuckin’ cake! All of it. Eat it off of the person’s body that you desire most (Oh please let it be me!… let it be ME!)

    Have a great day.

    xox
    AJ

  13. Me says:

    Does our girl know Elliot Spitzer?

  14. Me says:

    Does our girl know Eliot Spitzer?

  15. Rem Koolhaas says:

    Some people are patiently waiting for Miss Flame to return. Where art thou Penny?

    rk

  16. b says:

    yeah, really. what’s the sweetest tits and new sexy hair been up to nowadays???

  17. Mati-O says:

    Hey all just checked out penny on u-tube and she says that pennyflame.com will be her official page but check it out on the tube as all will be revealed! sorry penny for givin the skinny but I missed yah!

  18. Smoke Weed says:

    Not sure if you’re still an MMJ patient, but if so be in touch. I work for a SD delivery service and we get some really excellent northern buds. Would be happy to help you get verified.

  19. madgrad says:

    Stay in San Diego… It will keep you out of relative Trouble, and it is where you want to be, no matter how many times, you the LA vs SD argument is posted, SD always seems to win at the end in your opinion.

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